The Way She Moves (me) & Other Languages of love
I’ve been looking for an outlet for my more sacred and salacious thoughts, so I thought I might start a little blog. I may not post here often, but what I do post, will likely be a few ephemeral musings on the state of life, love, and this wild little world we inhabit.
**Note: For the sake of simplicity and accurate quotations, the words “Men/Male” refer to the Masculine energy, and “Woman/Charmeuse/Companion” refer to the Feminine energy with the understanding that the energy one carries may or may not have anything to do with one’s biological sexual orientation.
This first post is an ode to the dear clients who find their way into a charmeuse’s care but become lost in anxiety or worry somewhere along the way. It happens to us all at one time or another – we think we know what we want or need most of all, only to find that often reality subverts expectation. The trouble in the courtesan world seems to be that, often etiquette is unfamiliar.
According to ‘Relationship Rules Theory’, the longevity and success of any relationship: family, platonic friends, romantic partners, and workplace relationships, can be successful if a defined set of societal rules are followed. When these rules are not complied with, our relationships may weaken and end. Many of those in this field of study agree that some of the more complicated relationships in this theory are that which we label ‘romantic’ or ‘workplace’ related.
In a world such as ours which combines the two, the rules can be even more amiss if we do not take the time to construct those boundaries ourselves. This realm also has the tendency to show us that ideas, and people, can be so much more than what they appear. This little bit of understanding can cause a rational person to want to reconsider what it is they are perceiving in their mind and wonder if it is even available in the tangible reality. I hope to take a moment to explain to you what companionship can be and how you can keep something beautiful between you and your cherished charmeuse.
While I can speak broadly to the vivacious freedoms, emotional holding and sexual support cocottes like myself and women on a whole offer to the men in this world, there’s someone who is simply more eloquent than I in discussing the rules and laws of transactional consent. Simone Solnsa, a companion based in San Francisco, has written the most thoughtful piece that I can’t recommend enough to those wondering about the rules of engagement in this realm. You can find her complete blog post titled - “So You Want to be Her Favorite Client: A Meditation on Consent” Here: https://www.simonesolnsa.com/musings/consent
But let me allow you a little snippet:
“The transaction creates a bubble for us, a place we can romp around and be liberated from the normative social constructs we are beholden to in other places of our lives. The social contract we make together is often expansive, inclusive, and compassionate toward our more repressed desires. And just like BDSM and kink need rules in order to defy the norm, so do even the most vanilla situations with a companion.”
What I have noticed in my 5 + years as a career companion, is that femmes, coquettes, and courtesans such as myself are highly emotional, intuitive, creative, and thoughtful creatures as exhibited throughout history. I also consider the masculine energy in men to create very grounded, stable, logical, and rational creatures. This is to why I believe the masculine and feminine energies throughout the ages - even in queer communities - have gravitated towards each other. In tantric teachings they say “She is his manifestation; He is her consolidation” – ‘his’ dream, and ‘her’ structure.
It has though occurred that in our modern age within capitalism, stability has manifested itself as money. And women’s strengths: our ability to categorize in our mind and create a space separate from the outside world when we are together for emotional holding; our ability to multitask and easily tend to all the mundane decision making, in conjunction with our fun, bubbly, and amenable approach to life, have not manifested themselves because they are so deeply rooted in the ethereal realm. This organized separation, sustenance, and manifestation of these ideals, is what I and many other companions offer as a service that inherently include truth, connection, and authenticity intertwined into these times.
So when you, as our beloved client provides that transaction: that stability, that 'bubble' for us as feminine spirits to be our whole beautiful and divine selves, we are both able to honor the union that is so organic to our nature, and really let the chemistry flow to allow the blossoming of something beautiful between us. And I suppose here's the salacious part - I believe this to extend to our personal romantic relationships as well as the transactional ones set within this sex working realm. Perhaps it's just me, but I believe if you provide a femme with stability, both monetarily and emotionally, in the way that they crave, she will absolutely fly for you and lift you up further than you ever imagined. But feel free to debate me on that - I'd love to hear your ideas ;-)